Preparation and Guidelines


Each child is assigned a BJ tutor who will work with them for approximately six-nine months leading up to the B’nai Mitzvah.

Tutoring includes: learning Torah trope and to read Torah, learning haftarah trope and to read haftarah (if applicable), Torah and haftarah blessings, and writing the D’var Torah.

Meetings with Hazzan

Each child meets with Hazzan Priven between four and five times throughout the three to four months leading up to the bar/bat mitzvah to learn how to lead various sections of their bar/bat mitzvah service and review other materials they have learned.

Hazzan Priven, or other qualified leader, will conduct a dress rehearsal for the child and parent(s).

Additional support may also be provided by a rabbinic fellow or student hazzan.

Meetings with the Service Leader

There will be two meetings with the rabbi or service leader:

  • A one-on-one meeting with the service leader and child
  • A meeting with the service leader, parent(s) and child. Please note that if the child shares the B’nai Mitzvah date, both families will be together at this meeting.

B’nai Mitzvah Fee

The B’nai Mitzvah fee includes:

  • Tutors’ salaries for 24 1-hour sessions leading up to the bar/bat mitzvah
    • Additional sessions and payment should be arranged directly with the tutor
    • If you elect to have a private tutor, this must be approved by BJ.
  • Printed preparation materials
  • Administrative costs

Payment options are available if a BJ tutor is enlisted.

B’nai Mitzvah YearChild Studying with a BJ Tutor*Child Studying with a Private Tutor*

*Prices current as of April 2018. BJ reserves the right to change prices at any time.


No photography/videography may be taken during services or community events.

For photography arrangements, please contact the B’nai Mitzvah Coordinator.


There are a variety of opportunities and options for celebration surrounding B’nai Mitzvah.

  • Shabbat dinners
  • Community kiddush
  • Luncheons
  • Evening celebrations
  • Morning minyan breakfast

Depending on the time of the event, there are some Shabbat restrictions, including the type of music that can be played, photography limitations, and other activity guidelines.

Spaces at 88th or 89th Street are available for rent on a “first come, first served” basis and is sometimes restricted by congregational programming. Rentals can be booked 12 months before the event.